I have my fair share of bullets and consider myself to be a bit of an aficionado when it comes to all things vibrating. I

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A heated debate ensued. My friend stated her case with passion and commitment – she was completely over him emotionally, was a much stronger person now, she felt she was holding the cards this time so was enjoying a position of power when before, she had most definitely been the victim, and it was ONLY SEX! What was the big deal? Why couldn’t it be ok to have commitment-less, no-ties sex?

She had a point….we discussed it some more.

I reminded her how much she had been hurt when the break up had happened just six months before. Did she honestly feel she was completely over him? There was no-one else in her life at the moment, so could she genuinely say with confidence that, after a few sexually-fulfilling encounters with her ex, whom she had held in such high regard only half a year ago, really not hold any threat to her emotional well-being and stability? I was struggling to see it.

As for him, this good-looking, entertaining and sexy chap (yep, physically, I could definitely see the attraction) had recently split from the girl for whom he had dumped my friend. My friend had bumped into him in a bar they used to frequent together and the physical frizzle they had felt when they had first met was still there. After a few drinks, they got talking about the old times they had shared and the great sex they had enjoyed, so decided that it wouldn’t be harming anyone if they relived some of those hot moments every now again, so long as they both felt it was OK. They spelt out the terms (much as Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis did in the film Friends With Benefits) so there was no confusion as to the boundaries and expectations. It was only sex. No emotional commitment, just sex.

I must admit, I was growing more accepting of the idea. After all, as long as they could both confidently enter into the agreement feeling nothing other than a need for physical venting, then what was the big deal?

However, I couldn’t help remembering the hurt and the pain that my friend had felt only a short while ago. My feelings of doubt were further reinforced by the fact that she had not started any significant relationship with anyone else since. OK, she hadn’t been sat around pining and moping about her lost love, however I wasn’t convinced that she had properly broken all emotional ties. I had a serious foreboding that this ‘no emotions, just sex’ arrangement was much more in his favour than hers. After all, he had dumped her…and she hadn’t wanted to be dumped. Wouldn’t she still be secretly harbouring the faintest of hope that this physical relationship would develop? Wouldn’t she be thinking that it was a subliminal sign that he still had deep feelings for her, and missed her, and wanted to be with her again?

Well, as it stands, they are now two weeks into their ex sex, and apparently all is happy. My friend is enjoying the bedroom fun and is still standing firm on the “I’m not after anything else, this is just what I need and I’m controlling it’ line. She is still (at least so she says) on the look out for a significant man to come along, so she feels this thing with her ex isn’t getting in the way of her future opportunities for finding Mr Right. I have noticed a lot more messaging going on, and I see her face light up when his flirty messages ping up on her screen. She says this is nothing more than anticipation for the next hot night.

My gut says this is all wrong for her and it will end in tears. Whilst I’m hoping she will remain empowered and in control, my fear is she will be hurt once again.

My partner and I have spent many a happy evening hunting down my G-spot, and whilst the search has always been fun, sadly, despite many years of trying, we have failed entirely in its location. I had heard great things about the We-Vibe II being an excellent G-spot and …

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We at We Love You thought it would be a good time to explore the foods of love that can help while away those rainy evenings and weekends, adding a little spice and warmth to the still chilly days we are experiencing. Let’s replace the elusive sunshine with the equally satisfying and feel-good provider – food!

So, if you’re wondering what to do this weekend, or even feel like making your Thursday night a little more passionate than normal, why not consider incorporating some of these foods of amour. Get the music on, pour some good wine, dress up a little to ensure you’re feeling good about yourself and in the right frame of mind, light some candles and get yourself and your partner in the kitchen. Here are some ingredients and food items that are proven to work wonders for the libido:

Asparagus – known as ‘Love Tips’ by France’s Louis XIV, and recognised as a stimulant and aphrodisiac, with medicinal, diuretic qualities, this delicate vegetable will not only do you good, but it will also hit that horny spot. Three courses of this sexy-looking veg were served to bridegrooms in the 19th Century, so strong was the belief that it would serve them well in the bedroom. Sadly, it leaves some with quirky-smelling wee, so prepare yourself for a rather unpleasant toilet experience. If you combine this with beetroot, you may well think the world is coming to an end, but stay calm, these side effects are a minor inconvenience for the benefits this lovely and delicious vegetable brings to your table and your bedroom.

Champagne – wondering what to drink whilst savouring your Love Tips? Well, you’ll be pleased to hear that champagne is considered to be the ‘drink of love’, inducing a warm-glow throughout the body and reducing any inhibitions. Make sure you keep consumption to a moderate level as too much alcohol can have a negative effect on our enthusiasm for sex.

Oysters – a bit like marmite in that you either love them or you hate them. Some say there’s nothing quite so sexy as sucking a fresh oyster from its shell, feeling the texture in their mouths, the evocative closeness to the sea and the sensations it provokes as it slides down the throat. Others can think of nothing worse! If oysters are your thing, then go and treat yourself to some and you can be sure of a good night ahead.

Caviar – much like oysters, caviar seems to split the group into lovers and haters. Lovers will express enormous passion over the sensations of these little eggs rolling round on the tongue and popping against the roof of the mouth. They are also rather decadent, so much like champagne, they bring with them the feelings of extravagance and occasion which are exciting in their own right. Haters will say just the thought of eating unhatched baby fish is off-putting enough, and if you’re not keen on salty flavours, then these little ones aren’t the choice for your food of love-laden dinner table.

Figs – picked and eaten fresh from the tree, there are few fruits that can compare to the luscious, delicious delight that figs offer. Slow-roasted and served with walnuts and honey, these gorgeous-looking fruit transform into chewy, crunchy indulgence. The look sexy, taste great and are full of goodness, so add them to your shopping basket if there’s no handy tree nearby!

Chocolate – bound to bring a smile to most of our faces, the good news is that chocolate is also fabulous for enhancing our libidos, to the point where it was actually banned from some monasteries in the past! Not only does it act as a stimulant, it also suppresses our inhibitions, so chocolate, coupled with some champagne is the perfect combination for love food!

Bananas – these fruit not only have a vaguely phallic shape, they also are believed to enhance a man’s performance. Their creamy, soft texture may also be considered to be quite sexy. Why not make a food-of-love-packed fruit salad, with figs, bananas and some passion fruit? Serve with chocolate and some bubbly and an amorous evening will be guaranteed.

Bon apetite!

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Sure enough, this one followed along the same lines, however, what made it particularly special was that the Bride and Groom had met via a dating site after many years of unsuccessful relationships. Both are in their late 30′s, both are very attractive, warm, charismatic, loving, affectionate, caring, funny and fit people, yet they had failed to find their mate without the support of online dating.

Why is that? Often, we struggle to find the time to socialise in a way that will introduce us to new people of the right type. Let’s face it, work demands ever more of us and generally, our free time these days is pretty limited. However, if we take our lovely new wedded couple as an illustration, I think we’ll conclude that more often than not, even the most sociable, likeable and attractive of people still struggle to find their mate.

Our Groom works for a large cycling business and spends his working days travelling the country and meeting people. Whilst he works hard, he spends all his free time at various clubs, either cycling, running, climbing, circuit training and so on. His network of friends on Facebook indicates just how much he gets about, and the number of new potential partners he meets, yet despite this highly active social and work life, the right person remained elusive.

Our Bride, an extremely attractive girl with a very good job for a well known pharmaceutical company, also travels for her job and when she’s not working, she spends her time in similar sporty pursuits (fencing, diving etc), again meeting new people who share her interests. However, as with her now hubby, she too failed to find Mr Right.

So, the pair of them, with characters and looks most of us would envy, and with the lifestyles we would hope would find ‘the one’, had drawn complete blanks. That was until they came upon each other via one of the leading dating agencies.

So, if you are struggling to find someone to love and have exhausted all the more traditional channels, perhaps it’s time to follow in our newlyweds’ footsteps and see what online dating can do for you. Go on, give it a go. What have you got to lose?

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