Butt plugs can be used alone or as part of a couple. They are great for foreplay or use during sex and can lead to a much-enriched sexual experience for both parties. When looking for a butt plug tries not to be too over zealous when first choosing your anal toy. Opt for the plug that has a tapered body and is slimmer at the tip end of the toy, which allows you to gradually introduce the wider girth into the anal passage.
The only other thing to ensure is that your plug has a flared base. If your butt toy does not have a flare at the end the toy could travel inside the rectum and be impossible to remove. Nobody wants to be perched in A & E with an anal sex toy stuck up their bum so this is very important!
When beginning to use your plug make sure you have some lubricant to hand. It doesn’t matter which you choose although the sex lubricants designed for anal use tend to be thicker and more slippery than standard lubricants. The only other consideration is that silicone lubricants which are perfect for anal sex cannot be used with silicone sex toys so either use a water based lube or choose a non silicone butt plug.
Lubricate the entire body of the plug leaving the end so that it doesn’t become too slippery when pulling back out. Gently ease in the tip of the plug about 2 cm and stop. The key to inserting a butt plug is to allow the anal muscles time to relax around the toy before pushing it further into the anal passage. Once it feels comfortable at this level of insertion push a little further along. For the first few attempts try only part way in and wait until your confidence has grown before pushing in to the base. Once you have inserted the butt plug for the entire length it can be left in the passage without manual intervention and you are free to embark on other methods of sexual stimulation.
For women inserting a butt plug during sex can make the vaginal passage feel tighter and therefore make love making more pleasurable for both parties. The butt plug also pushes against the nerve endings in the anus, which have many pleasure giving properties. Men have the P Spot, which enhances climax whilst many women purport that inserting a sex toy into the backside brings on a stronger, longer orgasm.
Overall take your time, use lubricant and don’t choose the biggest you can find as a beginner.